Recognizing Warning Signs of Suicide in Children and Teens: A Guide for Parents

As a parent, there is nothing more important than the health and well-being of your child. While childhood and adolescence are often associated with growth and exploration, they can also be filled with challenges. Unfortunately, for some young people, these challenges can lead to overwhelming feelings of hopelessness.

Suicide is the second leading cause of death among teens and young adults ages 10-24 years old. As parents, you are the expert on your child and you know best when there may be changes. By understanding these signs and knowing how to respond, you can play a pivotal role in suicide prevention and mental health support.

1. Behavioral Changes

One of the first indicators that your child may be struggling is a change in behavior:

• Withdrawal from Friends and Activities: If your child suddenly stops engaging in activities they once enjoyed or isolates themselves from friends and family, this could signal depression or emotional distress.

• Risky or Reckless Behavior: An increase in dangerous behaviors, such as drug or alcohol use, reckless driving, or breaking rules, may be a sign that your child is struggling.

• Declining Academic Performance: A sudden drop in school performance or skipping school altogether can indicate that your child is experiencing emotional difficulties.

2. Emotional and Verbal Indicators

Your child may not directly say they are thinking about suicide, but they might drop hints or exhibit emotional distress that shouldn't be ignored:

• Hopelessness and Despair: Statements such as “I can’t do anything right,” “I don’t see a way out,” or “Nothing will ever get better” reflect a mindset of hopelessness, which is one of the strongest predictors of suicidal behavior. Your child may be more direct and say, “I wish I was dead,” or ask “What is the point of living?”

• Expressions of Worthlessness or Guilt: Children and teens who feel they are a burden to others or who frequently express guilt or self-blame may be at risk.

• Mood Swings: Extreme changes in mood, such as excessive sadness, irritability, or even a sudden calmness after a period of intense distress, can be warning signs.

3. Physical Symptoms

Though less obvious, physical symptoms are another key indicator that your child may be struggling emotionally:

• Changes in Sleep Patterns: Both excessive sleeping and insomnia are common in children and teens experiencing depression or suicidal thoughts.

• Changes in Eating Habits: Significant weight loss or gain due to changes in appetite may indicate underlying emotional issues.

• Fatigue or Lack of Energy: Constant tiredness, even after adequate sleep, can be a sign of depression or other mental health issues.

How Can Parents Prevent and Respond

1. Open Communication

The most important thing you can do as a parent is to create an environment where your child feels safe to talk about their feelings. Encourage them to share their thoughts, and listen without judgment. Sometimes, just knowing they have someone to confide in can be a life-saving intervention.

2. Don’t Be Afraid to Ask About Suicide

Many parents worry that talking about suicide might “plant the idea” in their child’s head. However, research shows that asking someone directly if they are thinking about suicide does not increase their risk. If you suspect your child is having suicidal thoughts, it’s crucial to ask them in a calm, supportive manner. Use language like, “Are you thinking about hurting yourself?” or “Have you thought about ending your life?”

3. Seek Professional Help

If you are concerned about your child’s mental health, seek professional support immediately. You can call or text 988, the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline. Therapists, counselors, and pediatricians can help assess your child’s emotional state and develop a plan to keep them safe. In cases of acute risk, contact emergency services or take your child to the nearest hospital.

As parents, it’s natural to want to protect your children from all harm, but recognizing the warning signs of suicide requires vigilance, compassion and open communication. The earlier you intervene, the better the chances of helping your child navigate their emotional struggles. Always trust your instincts; if something seems wrong, don’t hesitate to seek help.

If you or your child are in immediate danger, contact 911 or take your child to the nearest emergency room.

As always, if you feel you or your child may need extra support, feel free to contact Jillian at jillian@thebarigroup.com today!